I'm not just afraid of the dark.

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Actually I'm not scared of the dark at all... at least not anymore. 

Struggle 4: Fear 

The definition of fear: an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain, or harm.

I would describe fear as something you have to overcome to become a better version of yourself. 

I am afraid of a lot of things, but I have also overcome a lot of my fears. 

My fear of losing my independence, my fear of commitment, and my fear of loneliness - all of which I have overcome. 

Now my biggest fear, people reading my writing. I have always been nervous about this, I have never been one to share my heart with anyone; that's exactly what writing is. I am baring my soul to anyone who will listen, well read in this case. And that is a scary thing to do for most people. I have decided that I have to try and get over this fear. It is stopping me from sharing one of my true passions with other people, now don't get me wrong, my true passion might be total rubbish and everyone might hate it, but even if that does happen, at least I tried. I can always be proud of that fact. 

Another fear I am going to have to overcome is social media. I hide behind social media, I am a lurker. I don't comment on things, I tend to keep my head in the sand while people argue over me. I don't like getting involved in online arguments and I would much rather not comment at all. On the other hand, we live in a world run by social media so if I want my books and my writing to have any chance at all, I need to make them known and break out into the scary wide world of Facebook. Twitter is going to have to wait there is only so much fear and anxiety I can handle at one go. 

I could just pay people to do this stuff for me, but I decided I wouldn't. I don't want to have everything done for me so I have to learn it myself and learn it I will... someday. 

For now, I am going to try what I can and hope that I give my books enough of a chance that they don't completely crash and burn. Who knows? 

Anyway I got side tracked, my point is that if you let fear rule your life you will miss out on so many opportunities. I am not going to use the term YOLO because people just used that term as an excuse to act like complete idiots and it was okay. But the concept is the right one, you should live like there might not be a tomorrow, because in these weird times we are living in at the moment this may very well be the case. 

Don't let the fear of something, stop you from doing something you love. 

I believe in the strength inside you, even if you don't. 

Keep struggling - it will be worth it in the end. 

Kay x 




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